1. Do you love me as much as you would a biological child?
2. Did my birthparents love me?
3. How am I like my birth family?
4. How did I grow in your heart?
5. Will you always love me?
6. Can I learn more about my birth country?
7. Is adoption forever?
8. Who else is adopted like me? (It's good to introduce adopted children to other adoptees.)
9. Will you show me pictures and tell me about my adoption experience?
10.Do you think I will adopt my children someday?
As you can see, adopted children have an added dynamic to work through in order to develop a healthy identity. Open communication and lots of love and encouragement are needed in order to facilitate healthy growth. Celebrate family in order to nourish and foster security and emotional development.
This list was originally posted on a tip sheet for social workers written by Stacie Cahill, MSW. I thought they would be good questions to think about. Hopefully these questions you will be answering throughout the child's life.